To potty train, or not to potty train… that is the question. Or at least the question I will be focusing on in this particular article. Since I have had a lot of experience in potty training young children, I thought it would be beneficial to share some well-tested methods I have used. And if you have any secret tips or ideas that I have not thought of, please let me know! I want to provide as much helpful information as possible…including information I may not yet be acquainted with.
Lets first look at the “right” time to start potty training your child. First, I want you to take the time to observe your child. Are they able to have a dry diaper for at least two hours? Do they wake up in the morning with a dry diaper? And most importantly, do they show any interest in potty training? It is easiest to potty train your child when they are demonstrating both a pseudo-mastery of their bladder and showing interest in using the toilet. If your child does not seem to exhibiting either of these signs, then it is probably best to wait. I would also suggest waiting until your child is able to verbalize their needs. If they cannot communicate to you that they are wet and need a diaper change, or if they do not understand the feeling of needing to go (and subsequently cannot tell you) I would put potty training on hold. The worst possible thing you could do for your child is pressure them to use the toilet before they are ready. Unfortunately, when some children are pushed to use the toilet too early, they end up either fearful or upset when it comes time to go to the bathroom. We want this experience to be easy and natural, not forced.
A good way to practice, if your child is showing some interest in using the toilet, would be to ask them if they want to “sit on the potty” after you take their wet diaper off. When they are done (whether or not they went to the bathroom) congratulate them and let them bask in your praise. If they do go to the bathroom, however, I would suggest giving them a sticker or some type of motivational reward. It’s not that we want to bribe them it’s more that we want them to associate going to the bathroom with something positive. We don’t want them to think of it as a negative experience, so do anything you can to make it fun! Once it becomes obvious that they prefer to have a dry diaper and potty in the toilet, I would start taking them to the bathroom every half hour. If they can go a day or two without too many accidents (I would say three or less), I would then try putting them in underwear. When your child is in underwear, I would take them to the bathroom every fifteen to twenty minutes. I realize that this may sound ridiculous, but it works! Designate a weekend to potty training your child, and by Monday they should be almost accident-free.
Now if your child is able to hold their urine for almost two hours during the day, but they have difficulty making it through the night with a dry diaper, take a step back to assess the situation. Are they ingesting too many liquids before bedtime? Are they eating a lot before bedtime? Or do they wake up in the middle of the night because of a wet diaper? Each of these have fairly simple solutions, it just depends on what your child is experiencing. If they are having too many fluids, simply start to cut down over the course of a week and allow them to have water or milk about an hour to two hours before bedtime. This same idea applies to food- just make sure that they are not eating too much before they go to sleep, as it can cause them to have a bowel movement during the night (a very unwanted incident if you are transitioning them into underwear). Lastly, if your child is one to wake up in the middle of the night, I would make sure that they are able to signal you that they need to use the bathroom. When a child wakes up in the middle of night, nine times out of ten it is right before they go potty. So make sure that when your child wakes up, you are able to help take them to the toilet. I know it sounds rough, but trust me, it will go by fast, and it will help prevent messy accidents and unnecessary laundry.
I just want to throw this out there, because once again, there is no such thing as a foolproof method when it comes to children- these ideas may not work. If they do not work right away, just give them time. If your child is not ready to use the toilet please don’t push them, because in the end it will just be harder on both of you. I wish you all the best of luck, I know you can do it- you’re great parents!!!